Shades of Green

Hi Readers, In my previous blog, I talked about the choices we have to make in life when we arrive at a juncture:  Stand by what you choose That made me think about those choices we play no part in, those choices which have been pre-decided for us. Our curly hair, plump face, skinny hands, dark skin, narrow eyes, an imprisoned parent, a lost child, an amputated leg, and so much more. Do we get a choice to make about this? Can we change it even if we want to? I had a really good friend who was on the heavier side. She was obese from a very young age, was diagnosed with diabetes when she was just ten, had PCOS when she turned fifteen, encountered facial hair growth when she was too young to even understand it. She shares her story oftentimes with disappointment as she recalls the many pleasures she was denied of which other kids of her age were bestowed with. Did she have a choice?  A great majority of us keep narrowing our focus onto the drawbacks we have. "I hate my curly hair&quo

The inspiration for what I am writing right now comes from an interview given by Indian actress Neena Gupta.  She is a brave lady who once got pregnant out of wedlock and decided to keep her baby. When the interviewer asks her if the most difficult choice she had to make in her life was, whether or not to keep the baby; she says, "the most difficult choice was to stand by the decision she had taken." Visit this link to get a brief sketch of the interview:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-QjUaLYQqI4 Plenty times, in life we arrive at the intersection of the list of many choices we have available. And we get to choose only one among them. Each one of us has our own strategies of analysing which ones among them work the best for us. We finally decide to choose one. But how do we know if we made the right choice? What if in the long run, we regret our decision? Can we turn back and redo it all from the start?  The funny fact is that, in life; many choices we make do not have a r

Dear Readers, A very Good Morning to you all. What is the 'joy of giving' like? Do we actually feel good from within or depleted of all that we have. If we take a good look around, it's not uncommon to hear - the poor are happier. But why is it so?  Aren't we a lot more blessed and insured than they are, with food to eat, a home to live in and clothes to wear? Aren't we supposed to be much much happier than they are?  Then where has it all gone wrong? One of the biggest difference between the poor and the middle-class/rich community is that the poor don't have a lot to lose. The rich carry worries about what they might lose which deprives them of the experiences of the present. We can be happy even if we are rich if we train our minds that way. Be okay to lose everything.  "Today was good. Today was fun. Tomorrow is another one." - Dr Seuss Become able enough, that you can say this without a moment of hesitation. I had a silver bracelet when I was eigh

Dear Readers, Has it ever come across you that when you were really small, you might have had so-and-so goals in mind, like becoming a doctor when you grow up or to talk like someone whom you really admired or to study in a particular university or to make something really praiseworthy. And then, you just passed by those milestones without even realising they were once upon a time the dreams of that little child inside you.  Your goals just keep drifting further away from you the closer you get to it. What might once have been the biggest dream of your life may now be just a tiny memory of your past today.  I've written mission statements and made it to them but reminisced they were my mission statements only when I saw those written notes again. This book by Thomas M. Sterner is worth reading. If you've ever been lost in the fog of reaching your goals, only to realise that those goals just keep moving further and further away from you, then this book is you